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3 Jan

One of the things that I’ve desired within myself New Year after New Year is growth. There are certain traits and characteristics within me where I desire to see progress. My personal growth goals have been some of the most difficult ones to eliminate from practice not only because it takes MUCH work but also because they’ve been habits for so many years.

It is easier to change the body by diet and exercise than the mind; however all of the above demands a change of heart. You have to be willing to endure the pain in order to receive the progress. Life is a journey that requires growth and growth requires pain. One has to keep their mind focused on the “progress” during those most difficult times. There will be days when your rational maturing self will have to talk down the irrational immature self.

The most annoying statement made is: “You’ve changed or you are brand new.” My response is: That is what life is about isn’t it? Growing. No it isn’t an excuse to mistreat people; however some people will be in your life for a season, a reason or a lifetime. Doesn’t mean that you have to part ways in anger or with drama.

I am so excited about continuing to chip away at my shortcomings because I am eager for growth. I am eager to love harder, forgive quicker and serve better. Focusing on the “progress” and not the “pain” will allow this journey to be more enduring.

Trish Standley is a Gospel Recording Artist from Atlanta and the host of “Style with Trysh” Visit her at: www.trishstandley.com


Who Controls you?

27 Mar

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It is funny to hear the words that go something like this: “If so & so comes my way I’m going to check him/her cause I don’t play.” I have fallen victim to this very saying a lot in my life. Getting someone told makes one feel in control and gets the word out that you are not the ONE to be messed with. However, after sitting down and really thinking on this thing I’ve come to the realization that when you find yourself “checking” people often then who is really in control?

My Mom has spent my entire life trying to teach me this lesson. She’d tell me to stop being so sensitive and in my small mind I thought I’m not being sensitive I’m defending myself. So now here I am a defensive sensitive person. Where in that description is “control”? My Mom is so suave, calm and smooth with hers. She has “told people about themselves” but she has mastered the art of saying what needs to be said to the point that the person wouldn’t realize they had been “told” until her words marinated and by then a rebuttal is too late.

I need that type of strength and control in my life. I can imagine that it will be very difficult at first especially when you’ve allowed the tongue to speak before the brain has had time to control it BUT it can be done. It is for me to exercise this weakness in my life so that the muscles of self-control and strength are able to manifest themselves.

Being easily offended, highly emotional or quick to anger are weaknesses and I give them no more power of control in my life. The “think before you speak” is my NEW mindset. I made a pact with myself on Christmas Day of 2013 that I would control my eating habits, diet and exercise because if I can’t control myself then I certainly couldn’t control anything else. It’s a LOT of work, working on oneself. I’ve got a great start to the physical body, now time to work on the mental and as always the spiritual because it will take the POWER of God to bring about this change.

Keep me in your prayers.

Ask yourself ~ Who controls you?




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